Funeral Flowers soften the sorrow and comfort the living.
“Families deserve the right of complete freedom of expression at time of death. People are not cut from the same spiritual or emotional mold. Therefore, they should be free to express themselves in the manner which best conveys their emotions. Any expression which is the result of dictate, ceases to be an act of the heart”. Todd Van Beck,
The death of a family member or close friend is one of life’s most painful episodes. Those in mourning need support and most of us are anxious to find some way to comfort them. One of the most appropriate and appreciated ways to express sympathy and compassion, as well as respect for the deceased, is by sending flowers.
Occasionally, the obituary announcement includes the phrase “In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to…”. Often times, this terminology is used to encourage charitable gifts but not necessarily to discourage other expressions. Most families sincerely appreciate all personal expressions and may later regret having too few flowers at the funeral. It is important that each giver make their own choice and many people are choosing to send a floral remembrance to the service or family home as well as a donation to the charity indicated. While a monetary donation is a worthy tribute, there is really no substitute for beautiful flowers at a sympathy service. They comfort the living as they commemorate the lives of the deceased.
When planning a funeral, alternative sayings are suggested instead of “In Lieu of Flowers”. As part of making funeral arrangements, family members sometimes select a charity or other organization to receive financial contributions given in memory of the deceased. Occasionally this request is made “in lieu of flowers.”
Funeral directors who recognize the important contribution flowers can make to the traditional service are concerned that the solicitation is worded tactfully.
They realize that florists hope the charity can be identified in a phrase that does not single out the floral industry in a negative manner.
Funeral directors may also be asked to comply with newspaper obituary guidelines which prohibit discriminatory phrases.
Choosing one of the suggested alternative phrases which simply eliminates the expression “in lieu of flowers”, achieves three important goals. It honors the family request for a charity, meets the high standards for a charity, meets the high standards of good taste and decorum insisted upon by most funeral directors and does not dictate to friends the manner in which they express their sympathy.
“When Memorial Contributions Are Requested…These Phrases are Suggested:
- The family suggests memorial contributions be sent to….
- Should friends desire, contributions may be sent to….
- Memorials may be made to the charity of your choice
- The …. Memorial has been established for those wishing to contribute.
- As an expression of sympathy, memorial contributions may be sent to….
- The family has designated the …. for memorial contributions.
- Remembrances may be made in the form desired by friends.
- Memorial contributions may be made to….
- Flowers are welcome. Contributions may be sent to…
May the passing of a loved one be softened by beautiful flowers.
Roadrunner Florist & Basket Express Phoenix, AZ